Tuesday, 21 July 2015

How to love people you hate

In some of my recent posts, I talk much about how to keep an healthy relationship with your loved ones. But from time to time, we come across people who for no any reason, we just don't love them and we don't think we can, no matter how hard they tried to please us. One of my female friends who has been turning down a marriage proposal from a specific guy who
everyone thinks should be the best man for her, will always tell us that '' I don't love him, and I won't'' This statement struck my mind when a blog reader ask me to write and make a post on ''how to love people who you don't really think you can love''.

If you will agree with me, we all have different individuals in our lives, that it require some special kind of efforts and conviction for us to show them familiarity, generosity, kindness and of course, love. This is just natural, actually, they don't wrong us to deserve such a slight hatred from us. But we can't just help. Some times it could be, a classmate, co-worker, an exhausting family friend or a difficult family member, there are times when we just want to give up on people and feel as though all our love and patience has run out.

With this post, I will try to teach us how to love someone we don't really think we can love. Am just gonna do this by reminding us the truth, of the fact that we have access to love in abundance the love is always real, always giving, always selfless, always true and most of all, ready to go wherever we are sending it to.

The act of loving people is completely from the mind, and there are specific things we need to examine and be reminded of when we’re having a hard time loving the people around us especially those who really care about us. Those who really love and want to be with us. Let consider the following factors:

1. What is your own definition of real love? Where we got it wrong most times is having a wrong definition of what real love is all about. Love isn’t just good feelings toward someone or something. True love is action. True love gives rather than takes. It isn’t just good feelings toward someone or something. True love is action, true love takes courage and sacrifice. True love gives rather than takes. If you try to love people out of your feelings for them, it will result in inconsistency, because feelings change and people do things that frustrate and offend us. When we love out of action and have the mindset that giving is far better than receiving, we will love selflessly and well.

2. What actually make you to think you can't love them? Is it the way they treat you or others around you, is it the way they walk, talk or work, is it their words that cut so deep or the way they talk about people you love? There are many reasons someone may be hard for us to love, but I believe when we begin to examine the situation we can begin to realize our own faults in the matter. It could be that we are just getting them wrong.
 
3. Are You a Difficult Person to Love? You may be wondering why do you have to be asked this question, but honestly we need to ask ourselves if we are the one who are really difficult to love. Are we the difficult type? or what has really gone wrong with us that makes it difficult for us to love people and refused to reciprocate the love. 

2. Evaluate them for any positive personality traits:  It is very likely that your personalities are not particularly compatible, but there will be at least one thing about this individual’s personality that you like. 
Maybe they are funny, they speak well, they are generous, or they are clean and neat.  Dig into this person’s personality to find anything that you agree with and appreciate.  The more items you find, the better.
- See more at: http://raiseyourvibrationtoday.com/2015/01/24/appreciate-people-dont-like-3-easy-steps/#sthash.KqgqVFzg.dpuf
4. Try to understand them: Sometimes, the way we judge or see others is not out of love in the first place, so of course it is difficult to love them. Sometimes we don’t try to understand why people are the way they are and play the blame game instead of trying to get to know them in a deeper way, understanding the challenges they have faced and what they have gone through to make them act in the ways they do.

It is possible that you are not really compatible, but it is still likely that there will be some things you like about them. It could be that you like their funny type, the way they speak, what they do or even the kind of family they came from. The more you get some get those things the better. 

I hope this helps?

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It is very likely that your personalities are not particularly compatible, but there will be at least one thing about this individual’s personality that you like. 
Maybe they are funny, they speak well, they are generous, or they are clean and neat.  Dig into this person’s personality to find anything that you agree with and appreciate.  The more items you find, the better.
- See more at: http://raiseyourvibrationtoday.com/2015/01/24/appreciate-people-dont-like-3-easy-steps/#sthash.KqgqVFzg.dpuf
It is very likely that your personalities are not particularly compatible, but there will be at least one thing about this individual’s personality that you like. 
Maybe they are funny, they speak well, they are generous, or they are clean and neat.  Dig into this person’s personality to find anything that you agree with and appreciate.  The more items you find, the better.
- See more at: http://raiseyourvibrationtoday.com/2015/01/24/appreciate-people-dont-like-3-easy-steps/#sthash.KqgqVFzg.dpuf
2. Evaluate them for any positive personality traits:  It is very likely that your personalities are not particularly compatible, but there will be at least one thing about this individual’s personality that you like. 
Maybe they are funny, they speak well, they are generous, or they are clean and neat.  Dig into this person’s personality to find anything that you agree with and appreciate.  The more items you find, the better.
- See more at: http://raiseyourvibrationtoday.com/2015/01/24/appreciate-people-dont-like-3-easy-steps/#sthash.KqgqVFzg.dpuf

8 comments:

  1. Sometimes the people that loves us we don't love back. But if you happen to love some aspects of the person only then will i encourage you to work on the others.. Love can't be forced neither can a person love whoever.



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    1. working on those other things is the most important...No one is perfect.

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  2. This is a great post. Love is all about action, when you make a decision to truly love someone you love themfor real. It more than feelings more than just words it is the ability to understand people and see the best in them even when their faults are just so glaring.

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    1. Ifeoma..thanks for the contribution.

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  3. Wonderful and well narrated. Love is about understanding, unity, friendship and tolerance. We should love our neighbors as we love ourselves.

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    1. yea..that's just the basis of real love.

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  4. Understanding is of utmost importance if you must love those you hate...
    Good one bro.

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  5. Is it possible to love someone you hate? Nah, maybe in the next world

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