Most Important Marriage Advice Nobody Will Tell You Before Marriage

As a married man or woman, looking back at the time you were preparing for marriage. You will realize that, there are a lot of ups and down aspects of marriage that you were not told. Have you ever wondered why marriage becomes completely different from what we thought of it? Haven gotten married to that special person your heart belongs, yet in a couple of months or so, you tend to see the other colour of what marriage is all about.

Just a year and some days ago, one of this blog readers consulted me for a marriage counseling...and after a brief chat with the prospective couples, I concluded my advice with  by saying “Buy A Big-Sized Bed.”

It was a surprised me that, they've never heard such before. This simply passed a message to me that; there are several important marriage's advice that are left unsaid to many new couples. Yesterday marks a year after their marriage, and the woman contacted me to appreciate my advice and to gist me on how her marriage life has been...so far.

Today, with this post, am going to share with you, the advice I offered them on “what people will never tell you about marriage”.

Below are some of the things you will learn in marriage which no one will tell you:

1. Marriage Is A Voluntary Way Of Giving Up Your Freedom: On the wedding day, marriage is so much fun for so many reasons. Especially when you are allowed to make your choice. 

Its good when you are given the opportunity to select the right man/woman you wish to live your life with. Unfortunately while things don't work out as we expected. You can’t just go back to your respective homes because things are not working as well.

You actually made the decision alone while you were planning to get a suitor…but now your parents, your friends, your family and the society are involved. And all of them will suggest that you must remain in the relationship. Does it really mean you have no freedom to go out of what you put yourself into? The answer is YES.

 

2. You Will Surely Have Conflict: Don’t think because your pre-marital experience didn’t consist of much conflict. Just expect it. It will definitely come, but what matters is how you manage your conflict.  Your choice of conflict management can make or break  your marriage.

Joining two different people into one body requires you to look at your differences. Learn to work through those things with as much selflessness and sacrifice as you can. So that when conflict set in, you will know how to tackle it a midst yourselves.

3. You Will Get Tired Of Sex: Sex in marriage plays a major role in marriage. It offers you an intimate experience with your partner, and it’s often been shared with no other person. But the reality is that, you will get tired of it – your partner will demand and you won’t be ready for it. 

Despite the fact that, sex takes a little time in your marriage life compared to the day-in-day-out routine of life that takes up most of your time. You will surely be busy with office work, your business, parenting, laundry, cooking, house chores and other engagement that will make you reject sex.

As importance as to satisfying each other sexually in marriage, you will deprive your partner. It is a common problem, but before marriage, nobody will tell you what to do about it. And If not properly managed it can lead to break up.

4. You Will Be Tired Of Your Marriage Life: Even in the most blessed and interesting marriages you are praying to have. You will surely come to a point where you’ve reached the end of yourselves. It will be that time when you’ve given everything and feel like you’ve got nothing left to give.

A period after marriage, there will be a period when you will want to give up; to give up on trying, on forgiving, on healing, on growing or on loving. You will just feel so tired of the whole thing without reason.

This moment is what some couples failed to plan for, and they ended up given up. That’s why today, you can easily hear in the case of divorce after 28years of marriage. 

The essence of this post is to guide you on the important questions you should ask while undergoing  a marriage counseling.