Saturday, 19 September 2015

The Problems Of Loving A Guy Who Only Likes You

<mistaking like for love>
The greatest problem any woman can fall into is to fall in love with a guy helplessly but he doesn’t quite feel the same way. It will always turn out to be a miserable feeling when you've given up all your love and emotion to him, but never really needed it.

You know he cares and you never doubted that, but you are never sure he is interested in a real love affairs. He can say so many sweet words to keep you happy, but yet, he cannot give you what you want, which is usually a committed relationship.

Do you ever ask yourself what's keeping him away from been committed to the relationship? No....Don't worry I will tell you the reason why he will never be committed no matter how hard you tried. I'm not doubting, you might decide to be positively patient may be he will change in future. Believe me, no matter how long you wait, he will never do, because he only likes you not love. 

On of my friends on LinkedIn sent me a personal message asking, how will she know if a guy only likes her and not love. It is from the response I gave her that am putting up this post.

Firstly, my problem with ladies is that, they always believed they can manipulate guys when it comes to dating. For instance, if a guy like you but he does not want to be in a relationship, he means it. Surely, he cares about you, enjoys his time with you and really like everything about you. But, all these are not enough.

Unfortunately, most women will see this as a challenge they can overcome. They think if only they did more for him, or if only they can be more beautiful, the result would be different. The real truth, is nothing you do or say will change his feelings.

You are likely to face all or some of these problems if a guy only likes you and you loved him
1) You Will Have A Little Expectation: You are possibly going to be a woman who anything her partner does pleases her. There is a possibility that, you will always settle for being treated worse than you deserve. You won’t complain. 

There is this female friend who fell in love with a wrong guy who only liked her. She was never been treated good for once. When we complained as a friend, she will always beg us to please stop talking about it, that she will cope. She accepted all the ways he treated her. 

But when you’re accepting the way he treats you, you are definitely killing yourself and your feelings. At the end of the whole endurance, you would be disappointed, and left heartbroken.

2) You Are Investing Your Time And Emotion In An Uncertain Venture:  The reason why you are still doing all these to him, is to make him change his likeness to love. But Unfortunately, you don't know how long it will last. Are you going to do this for some months? years? or for how long? 

If you will believe me, there is  a bright chance that he will never change. Due to the love you have for him, you might not want to end the relationship. You’re entirely at his disposal, so he might later decide that it’s not going to work. He could do whatever he deem fit, and there’s nothing you can do about it.

3) You Will Be Giving All You Have To Make The Relationship Work: Moreover you are the one who loves him, so you will always be conscious of his needs, wants and feelings. Sometimes you will have to risk your life to satisfy him. You sacrifice your dignity, your self worth, your money and feeling. But at the end, it won't still work out fine.

Instead of him to appreciate and pay you back with kindness, he will never reciprocate. He will only look for your mistake to dispose you off, and if he throws you out. It might not even bothers him all because he is not feeling the same way you feel. So you are on your own.

Any how you tried, to such a lover you are just a desperate human being, and he believes you will soon get tired of it and leave him alone. On your on side, you would have exhausted yourself emotionally and mentally to work out the relationship. It might take you a really, really long time to be fine again, after breaking up with a guy you love but who doesn’t reciprocate the love. 

I Hope This Helps?

10 comments:

  1. The problem is most of the ladies (or guys, as the case may be) who are victims of these always like to live assuming what they want, instead of facing facts. Proper communication with that "so called" partner helps to easy the challenges that must arise from this.

    Nice one bro.
    Egwumba’s Blog

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    1. So many people do find it difficult to accept the reality and this always lead to a self deceptive belief. Like he will love me later. Thanks for your comment.

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  2. Nice post usman more grease to your elbow Logickid.com

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    1. Yusuf thanks for your comment and concerned am really grateful.

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  3. I was once a victim, loving a guy who just like him. It was crap, not worth it.

    Bolateethole.blogspot.com

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    1. A story from experience. thank God you are now an happy married woman

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    1. Still working on it....thanks for your interest.

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  5. This reminds me of those days I dated a guy who cared less about me while I was there showing him more love than he showed me. I thank God that I'm now happily married to a man who adores me
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    1. Thank God for been happily married...In most cases it doesn't work out well.

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