Tuesday, 16 February 2016

Five Warning Signs That You Are In An Abusive Relationship And Things May Not Work Out

Personally, abuse of any kind should not be tolerated in any relationship. Either an emotional abuse which effects my not easily be noticed by the third party, or a physical abuse with the results been seen by everybody should both be intolerable. It has a detrimental influence on your personality; as it eats away at your self-respect and poise bit by bit.
Some of the questions that always come to my mind  are; why do some men beat their wives? What makes it easy for some men to assault their women? Why do some women embarrass and disgrace their men? and on like that... There are so many things that can actually lead to any of these abuse.

Personally, abuse of any kind should not be tolerated in any relationship. Either an emotional abuse which effects my not easily be noticed by the third party, or a physical abuse with the results been obviously seen by people should both be intolerable. It has a detrimental influence on your personality; as it eats away at your self-respect and confidence gradually.


How A Lady Was Completely Disgraced In Public On Val day
I would not have shared this if not for what actually happened to a lady in my presence in the night of Valentine. After the heinous treatment she received from the so called boyfriend. This got me thinking, and continuously asking myself if it has now becomes compulsory to remain in a relationship no matter what you face.

The lady in question was publicly disgraced by her guy in all manners which no lady deserved that no matter the height of her wrongs. All the people around (including me) were expecting nothing from the lady less than a tough treatment in return for that heartless guy. Unfortunately, to our greatest surprises, she went down crying and seeking for forgiveness. 

It was later revealed that, their marriage is to take place a month and some day to this time and may be she don't want to start all over again...What a pity! 

The Ladies Has Forgotten That...

If you subjected yourself to intimidation and manipulations just because you are desperate to get yourself fixed with someone, you will always have yourself to blame. You mustn't sacrifice your values and self worth for love, because someone who really love you will never ask you to compromise those values.

If you are in an abusive relationship and you are yet to recognize that, below are some warning signs that when you noticed it in your relationship, you are likely going to be exposed to abuses either now or in the nearest future.

1) You Are completely Been Controlled By Your Partner: You must first of all agree with me that, because you've decided to give your love to someone doesn't mean you should be completely controlled. This is because if you are in a relationship with someone that completely controls you, you are in trouble.

Them being in total control of your life gives them a certain sense of domination, they would dominate every aspect of your life. Being in love with such kind of people is frustrating than not having a partner.

2) You Are Subjected To Public Disgrace By Your Partner: One of the things you still need to look out for is how your partner treat you in public. How did he treat you in the presence of  his friends, your friends, his family, and in public really matters. Failure to be given the proper public treatment in public is quite abusive just like the lady in question.
Some partners are so heartless that, apart from the in house intimidation they pose to their lovers, they also do it publicly. There is nothing wrong in pointing out your mistakes politely in public, but to insult you for them is entirely wrong and disrespectful. Considering the people's present and all that could lead to a total depression and lost of self confidence.
 
3) You Are Not Feeling Secured: The greatest thing anyone could enjoy in a relationship is security. If you don't have that, am sorry. If you noticed your partner acts in a manner that comes off as threatening and you don’t feel safe around them, quickly act fast, because you are likely to be abused. The common problem here is that you will start fearing your partner, you fail to act according to your will and lose a sense of self worthiness yet they will still hurt you.

4) Frequently Been Blamed: You are even getting used to that already. They've succeeded in making you believe that anything that goes wrong in the relationship is your fault. They never accept any of their mistakes, and always place you in the wrong, they believed they can't be wronged. 

Now you believed they always have to be right, while you’re always wrong even when you’re right. This sort of behavior inculcates a feeling of inferiority in you. Unfortunately, no matter how hard you tried to please them, they will always hurt you. They will let you down...soon.

5) You Have No Privacy/Space: Its always a wonder to me while some partners will want to occupy everything about their lover's life. They don't want to see you with any friends, course mates or anyone. They just want to have access to your life 24/7 without anyone else. They just don't want you to do anything on your own because they believed you can't.

The sincerity is that, just because you’re in a relationship does not mean you constantly have to be together. Everyone needs his/her privacy, and that's what you must understand in all situations. If you are in a relationship with this kind of person, don't be surprised when they subjected you to any form of abuse if found with a friend or course mates.

The essence of listing out this points is for you to note them, and see if any of these is in your partners attitude before they will finally hurt you.

I Hope This Helps?

3 comments:

  1. i thank God for my spouse,may our love continue to wax stronger.

    we are just best friends

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  2. hnmmmm, a lot of women are in abusive relationships and they keep enduring, hoping that things will work out one day. I just hope my fellow women will shine their eyes and say no to domestic violence.

    May God help us

    Alabekee's Blog

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  3. No 5 is so common. I hope all will sooner be well for those who are stucked in abusive relationship.

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