Monday, 19 January 2015

My Experience With Long Distance Relationship/Dating

''Distance is not for the fearful, it is for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. its for those knowing a good thing when they see it''
Often times when I have to listen to people's views about their bunch of experience on distance Relationships, its something one don't even need to get close by.

People tend to say long distance Relationships are one of the hardest possible way of loving someone. For this reason, for the first time on this blog am sharing my own share of long distance relationship and am sure it Will help many who are in a similar situation.

I met my love about two years ago. And have been in a long distance relationship now for almost
two years. She lives in the southern part of the country while I live in the North. Honestly, it started with a very serious challenge capable of breaking down a marriage not to talk of an amateur long distance relationship where the both of us were yet to meet each other not even for once.

At that point in time, our differences seemed to be too wide to merge in a happy long lasting life together. We both almost give up due to frustration from her Ex. After so many worries and disturbance, he gave up instead, maybe when he noticed we were not ready to give up.

Then we saw reason to start afresh and the challenges now is now do we cope with the distance as we were not planning to see any time soon. If I may say the truth, my girl has always be the engine behind the success we had in those difficult time. Despite her tight schedule, she never got discouraged and allowed to be negatively influenced our way of communication. It only mattered that we were together and we love each  other. We missed each other dearly but there was a certain peace with the reality. Most times, I could feel her being in love and thinking of me.

It got to a time we just wanna see each other, we were both so eager and during a festive period she traveled down to Ilorin  the town which I school. It was indeed a lovely time spent together. However, I knew this serenity would come and go; frustration could kick in eventually and challenge us. Around one year of our relationship the downsides of the distance did indeed knock me off. I missed her during days and nights and fear crept in.

 What if this would lead us only to a big disappointment? My mind comes up with various set of questions. Having got to know somethings about each other, we knew we would need to deal with lots of issues if we must be together. Have always praying for a loving and caring woman, who takes me for whom i am, now have gotten it but the distance is wearing us off because we are not in our conform zone.

I have learnt so much about distance relationship and the lessons I learnt may provide a help for you in you relationship even though is not a distance type like mine. What actually help us most till now are:

1) We talk more: I don't mean we talk always on phone but atleast we communicate often, we call and chat as if we were together. I make her feel comfortable when we talk. We joke, we laugh, we call each other funny names and some times we fight because she is a stubborn type and an naughty to some extent also. I feel much better after discussing my who problems and achievements with her and she does too. Its a way odd been honest.

2) No doubting: Distance don't kill love doubt do. Therefore I give my best in choosing love over doubt. I always ask questions and been curious when i notice any new change in her attitude. Am also been willing to open up in case she demand explanation.

3) Maximizing the little time: we  may not have more than enough time to talk or be together, but we always utilize the little available time to discuss crucial issues and ensure the time is well spent especially telling each other how much we love ourselves.

All we do must times to treating the distance as friend not as enemy or problem. Believe me as long as you genuinely love each other you Will always find a way of dealing with any conflict and one day your dream shall come true.


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