Thursday, 7 May 2015

How jealousy can ruin your relationship

When a lover doubts the other out of his or her own negative feelings and, as a result, will become consumed with jealousy. This jealousy will grow into control. This is not only a concept found in intimate relationships,  but friendships as well. The trouble with this is that the more overbearing a person acts, the more the other person will try to break free.


The inherent problem is the jealous person is actually just pushing his or her partner further and further away, expecting the counterpart to conform to his or her values, wishes and beliefs. Jealousy is the killer of relationships and can create problems that weren’t even there in the first place. As dangerous as jealousy is to keeping an healthy relationship, some are still yet to find out what could actually be the cause. Let me highlight three reasons why people become jealous.

1)  LACK OF TRUST IN ONE'S PARTNER.
 The truth is that we all carry around various painful relationship experience, because in one way or the other inequality must have experienced a painful break up. When someone is betrayed, the first thing to be lost is trust and it becomes so difficult to gain back..So when someone is considering going into another relationship, he/she may find it difficult to trust a new person and will want to monitor all activities of such partner in love.

Sincerely, to a greater level monitoring a partner cannot work out in preventing another breakup. The best thing is to trust yourself, believe in yourself and trust your partner until he/ she proved not to be trustworthy.

2) SUSPICIOUS LOVER
One funny thing about live is that all suspicious people are jealous and they always look for means to limit anything in his/her parner's lifestyles. A jealous lover will always try to restrict and monitor the time his lover spent with her friend, family and could even restrict her from achievinghher goal. The moment you start proving answers to these questions like where were you since? Who was he? Who are you chatting wit for this long? Who sent this text and the like frequently without reason, it must be clear to you that your lover is jealous.

 3) LACK OF TRUST IN ONESELF
The last cause of jealousy that I will discuss here is lack of confidence in oneself. Lack of confidence makes you feel like anybody can just walk up to your lover and snatch him/her because you don't deserve him or so. This state of mind makes you to start going into proper monitoring.

The fact is that, no amount of monitoring will keep your relationship alive, it is far more likely to damage your union. The only solution to this is to develop a self esteem and improve your confidence level so that you can believe no one deserve your guy or wife than you do. Doing this will go a long way in maintaining your relationship.

Let me conclude by saying “Relationships — of all kinds — are like Sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold on to some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.”

I hope this helps?

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