Saturday, 27 June 2015

Help Tips For A Frustrated House Wife That Is Giving Up

helps for frustrated house wife
Most times, relationship or let me say marriage affairs do go down well until when a partner eventually changed and frustrated the relationship. In most situation, it’s common for most wives to get seriously frustrated with their husbands and over a variety of life issues which to the husband could not have been so important…

Unfortunately it’s also common for ladies to step into those frustrating situations with an undefined demand and start swinging  at the innocent guy who does not even know what is provoking the anger.

The psychological implication of this is that, if this continue, guys pull back emotionally and physically from the relationship. They retreat further from you and get even quieter than before you unleashed your inner tiger on them. As she continue to get provoked and the man cannot really picture out her problem, the man himself will tend to continue withdrawing until eventually the relationship that was once so intimate, interested & valuable is left broken and nothing can be done about it.

Most times women frustration could be as a result of their efforts to improve some certain things about their husbands. Their reaction may be to trust in their basic instincts, which almost always will be to focus on changing their husbands, to force or lure him to adapt his behaviors to be more accommodating. When such man refuses to adhere to that pressure, she will be deeply frustrated so her  action may be come so nasty edged with impatience and anger.

Whenever such woman will have a discussion with her man, unknowingly due to frustration, her tone and voice will be harsh and disrespecting. He will know your absolutely torqued off at him, again, and it won’t work well. Oh it may cause some minor temporary changes in behavior, but nothing substantive.

But you will feel marginally better for a few days…  If you persist in pushing hard at him with your provocation, he will continue his slow retreat from you and the family. If you push over a longer period of time… he will eventually begin to consider other relationships as a retreat from the constant barrage he finds at home. That will lead to disaster for you both and your family.

Instead of allowing this frustration to get things worst and destroy your relationship, it is better you consider any of the following approaches:

1) Find some help from experienced married women: Don’t try to sort this out yourself, and don’t do the gossip circle of confiding in friends who  don't have any special advice or help to rescue your relationship than destroying it and turn it to the likes of their failed relationships.

Go higher than that. Find a lady who has lived a few decades as a married woman successfully, talk with her, listen to her experience and advice. Most women make serious mistakes while they are trying to get things fixed by themselves. This often happened not because they intended to kill the affairs but because of their lack of marital experience.

2) Ask him for advice: The relationship is between you and him, and what actually joined you guys together at a start was the influence of good communication. So use it again when you ran into misunderstanding. Don't shout at him, or avoid him instead ask him for advice and take the time to listen to his response to your deepest frustrations and concerns. 

Ultimately it’s your ability to talk will fulfill your deepest emotional needs, not prevent you from frustration. Also, take a second to gain some balance and  be encouraged, this is a common marital challenge, but not necessarily a permanent status you will have to endure.

3) Take a hard look at the way your “reacting” to your husband. Stop doing that if you can, and when you can’t; take responsibility for it with him and apologize. I know, how crazy. Apologize to HIM ? Yes, please. It will start to change the dynamic with you and him immediately. Lower your “expectations” for him to immediately “understand” what you’re wanting. It’s going to take some regular time of advice and counseling from you to really start to change him to what you want.

4) Respect him and give him some regards: No man want to be always directed by his wife...You can only achieve that by honoring his hard work and efforts on your behalf. Recognize to yourself and your family that this is no small feat. His determination to provide and protect is a major contribution to your health and stability.

See his contributions to your well being as valuable as any comfort his emotional vulnerability might provide in your personal relationship. When you understand that his hard work is his only way of communicating his love to you… this will make you think he will surely change to good over time when you continue being kind yo him.

5) Always talk to yourself: The best way to calm your nerve is to keep asking yourself if you are overheating the polity or not. Ask yourself if you can tolerate such an attitude and ill treatment from any woman if you are in his shoe. Doing all these will not only stopped you from getting provoked, but also grant you an healthy relationship.  I hope this help? Let hear your own view, we never can tell who this will help.


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3 comments:

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